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Lani Stoner, LMFT

  • Experience27 years
  • LocationCalifornia
  • Focus areasADHD, Stress and Anxiety, and Relationship
  • Therapy approachesClient-Centered Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
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About Lani

Lani Stoner is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) with a long history of helping people navigate stress, anxiety, relationship challenges, grief, depression, and ADHD-related concerns.

Background and approach

She brings a practical, problem-focused orientation that aims to restore daily functioning and improve relationships while supporting clients in finding hope and renewed purpose. Her clinical experience spans work in public agencies and independent practice since the mid-1970s, including long-term engagement with chronically mentally ill adults, children, adolescents, and couples.

Training in counseling psychology and gerontology informs her sensitivity to life-stage issues, chronic health concerns, caregiving stress, and situations involving trauma or abuse. Ms.

Stoner has also volunteered with military populations and has worked with people who identify as LGBTQQIP2SAA, emphasizing respectful, affirming care. Therapeutically she tends to employ brief, active interventions but also supports longer-term work when needed.

Her toolbox includes client-centered listening alongside cognitive behavioral techniques, mindfulness, narrative approaches, and solution-focused strategies. Based in California, she offers online options to fit clients who need flexible scheduling and different formats of contact.

How her approaches translate to online therapy

Client-Centered Therapy emphasizes empathic listening and collaboration, helping clients feel heard while exploring values and goals; online this can support work on relationship issues, grief, and self-esteem through a respectful therapeutic connection. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) focuses on identifying patterns of thought and behavior that contribute to anxiety, depression, and stress, and uses practical exercises to change those patterns; CBT adapts well to video or phone sessions for skills practice and structured homework. Mindfulness Therapy trains attention and awareness to reduce reactivity and improve coping with chronic stress, sleep problems, and emotional dysregulation, and can be guided effectively through live sessions or short written exercises via messaging.

Determining which approach fits best is a collaborative process. The therapist will discuss a person’s concerns, preferences, and goals and recommend strategies to try together, adjusting methods as progress unfolds so treatment aligns with what helps most.

Online work offers flexibility in format and scheduling through video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging. These options allow clients to access skilled, licensed professionals from varied locations and to choose modes of communication that suit their day-to-day life and symptom management.

Frequently asked questions

What kinds of concerns does Lani commonly address?
She works with a broad range of issues including stress, anxiety, relationship difficulties, grief, depression, addictions, ADHD, trauma and abuse, sleep problems, parenting challenges, and career or self-esteem concerns.
What is her general therapeutic style?
The approach is active and pragmatic, often using brief, directive interventions while remaining open to longer-term work when clients need more time to meet goals.
How long has she been practicing?
She has worked in the mental health field since 1976, bringing 27 years of documented experience in the roles described.
Where is she licensed and what credential does she hold?
She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California with the credential CA LMFT 30965.
Can people who speak other languages work with her?
She provides services in English only and does not list other language options.
Does she accept clients from outside the United States?
She is not currently accepting international clients.
What session formats are offered?
Sessions are available by video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging to accommodate different needs and schedules.
How are sessions scheduled and what does it cost?
Costs vary with location and therapist availability and sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time; to begin, select the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule according to therapist availability.

Areas of expertise

Primary focus

Stress, AnxietyRelationship issuesGriefDepressionCoping with life changes

Also works with

AddictionsLGBTFamily conflictsTrauma and abuseIntimacy-related issuesSleeping disordersParenting issuesAnger managementSelf esteemCareer difficultiesBipolar disorderCompassion fatigueADHD

Additional focus areas

Aging and geriatric issuesBlended family issuesCancerCaregiver issues and stressChronic pain, illness, and disabilityCo-morbidityCommunication problemsCoping with natural or human-caused disasterDisruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD)DissociationDivorce and separationEmptinessFamily of origin issuesFamily problemsFertility issuesFirst responder issuesForgivenessGuilt and shameHIV / AIDSHospice and end-of-life counselingInfidelityIsolation / lonelinessLife purposeMidlife crisisVeteran and Armed Forces IssuesMood disordersMulticultural concernsObsessions, compulsions, and OCDPanic disorder and panic attacksPhobiasPostpartum depressionPost-traumatic stressPregnancy and childbirthPrejudice and discriminationSeasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)Self-harmSelf-loveSocial anxiety and phobiaTraumatic brain injuryWomen's issuesWorkplace issuesYoung adult issues

Therapeutic approaches

Client-Centered TherapyCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)Mindfulness TherapyNarrative TherapySolution-Focused Therapy

Experience

27+ years

Licensed

California

Languages

English

What Lani can help with

Lani Stoner works with clients on stress and anxiety, relationship issues, grief, depression, and coping with life changes.

Lani worked in county/agency settings from 1978 to 2006 with children, adults, and elderly, with a major focus on work with chronically mentally ill adults starting in 1982.

How Lani approaches therapy

Lani's clinical approaches include Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Mindfulness Therapy, Narrative Therapy, and Solution-Focused Therapy.

Experience and training

Lani is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist practicing in California, with 27 years of clinical experience.